Studying the Art of Marriage

Posted by on Sep 22, 2012 in Pastor's Desk | No Comments

Contemporary Culture and Marriage

Did you enjoy the recent series on lies that our society and culture believe? We covered five basic categories: 1. everything is random. 2. no absolute truth. 3. people are basically good . 4. I can do whatever I want. 5.The goal of life is self-satisfaction. We tried to absorb the sobering truth that the wrath of God is being revealed over us because we have ex-changed the truth of God for the lie; that as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he; and that every wrong or destructive behavior begins with believing a lie. This also happens to be the premise of an article by Pastor Bill Eliff, “8 Lies That Destroy Marriage.”

This article and others like it can be found on a website: That just happens to be the title of a dvd-based marriage event created to help couples fully experience God’s plan for marriage. Usually scheduled over a Friday night and Saturday, through the use of engaging stories, real-life testimonies, and humorous vignettes, this is a natural tool to inspire couples to have the God-honoring marriage that He designed.

Imagine what might happen if every LCMS (Lutheran Church Missouri Synod)  church in the greater Tri-Cities offered the Art of Marriage at least once a year. Imagine what might happen if every couple then completed an eight week “Marriage Oneness” experience that equips couples to grow in true intimacy, connection, and purpose – and experience closeness for a lifetime. Imagine what might happen if even 10% of those couples committed to become mentors to other couples that need someone to confide in. Well, are you ready to see what God can do through a restoration of biblical, God-honoring marriage in our community? Please be in prayer for a kick-off “Art-of-Marriage” event for our CALM churches. This would familiarize two or three couples from each congregation with the experience and prepare them to host it in their home church. The goal of Family Life Ministries is for the Art of Marriage to be hosted at least once a month in 2013 somewhere in the Tri-Cities. Marriages need all the Christian encouragement and support we can muster! Think of the families and children that can be impacted with love and truth. Wouldn’t that be worth our while?

I bet you thought I forgot about the 8 Lies that Destroy Marriage, didn’t you? Well, here they are.

  • Lie #1. “My happiness is the most important thing about my marriage.”
  • Lie #2. “If I don’t love my spouse any longer, I should get a divorce.”
  • Lie #3. “My private immorality does not affect my marriage.”
  • Lie #4. “My sin (or my spouse’s sin) is so bad that I need to get a divorce.”
  • Lie #5. “I married the wrong person.”
  • Lie #6. “My spouse and I are incompatible.”
  • Lie #7. “Breaking the marriage covenant won’t hurt me or my children.”
  • Lie #8. “There’s no hope for my marriage—it can’t be fixed.”

We must combat the lies about marriage. The truth will set us free (John 8:32). God can fix anything!

–Pr. Paul Becker
“This man welcomes sinners and eats with them!” Luke 15:2