Considering Marriage

Posted by: on Mar 6, 2013 in Pastor's Desk | No Comments

March 2013 • Considering Marriage

From Pastor Becker’s heart to yours…..
Back in the early days of our nation, a visitor from France made this observation: “… I do not know whether all the Americans have a sincere faith in their religion… but I am certain that they hold it to be indispensable to the maintenance of republican institutions. This opinion is not peculiar to a class of citizens or to a party, but it belongs to the whole nation, and to every rank of society. …Despotism may govern without faith, but liberty cannot….. How is it possible that society should escape destruction if the moral tie be not strengthened in proportion as the political tie is relaxed? And what can be done with a people which is its own master, if it be not submissive to the Divinity? (de Tocqueville, Democracy in America – Volume 1 Chapter 17).

What greater evidence of being “submissive to the Divinity” could there be than accepting God’s definition of Holy Matrimony? The U.S. Supreme court this month will hear a challenge to this sacred institution that could have a significant impact on our life together in both the kingdom of this world and in the Kingdom of God.

“The U.S. Supreme Court’s decision to hear these cases is a significant moment for our nation,” Archbishop Cordileone said. “I pray the Court will affirm the fact that the institution of marriage, which is as old as humanity and written in our very nature, is the union of one man and one woman. Marriage is the foundation of a just society, as it protects the most vulnerable among us, children. It is the only institution that unites children with their mothers and fathers together. We pray for the Court, that its deliberations may be guided by truth and justice so as to uphold marriage’s true meaning and purpose,” Archbishop Cordileone said.

Please make this your special intention in prayer and fasting throughout this Lenten season as we pray together in our special Mid-Week services and especially during Holy Week at the end of the month. May God have mercy upon us and save the Supreme Court and this nation!

Pr. Paul F. Becker Joshua 4:24 “…that all the people of the earth may know the hand of the LORD, that it is mighty, that you may fear the LORD your God forever.”

House blessings in Epiphany

Posted by: on Dec 29, 2012 in Pastor's Desk | No Comments

House Blessings in Epiphany

By custom of the undivided church, the Pastor visits and blesses the homes of the faithful during the Epiphany season. Many Pastors, myself among them, would dearly love to see a rebirth of this practice in the congregations and homes of the Lutheran Church – Missouri Synod.

The Pastoral Care Companion, produced by our Commission on Worship says, “Homes may be blessed annually. Usually this is done during the season of the Epiphany due to the connection of the visitation of the Magi to the home of the infant Christ…The head of the household should be encouraged to pray regularly with the family, read the Scriptures, and sing hymns throughout the year, especially in times of distress.” To this I would add the following reasons:

  • To strengthen the domestic church by the Word of God and prayer
  • To renew the bonds of love between Pastor and the faithful of his flock
  • To impress on young and old alike the power and necessity of God’s blessing on all of life
  • To increase opportunities for conversation about the importance of our faith
  • To awaken awareness of our connection with the whole church in heaven and on earth

To this end, I hope that many of you will avail yourselves of this opportunity, thus experiencing the joy expressed in the hymn,

Oh, blest the house, whate’eer befall, where Jesus Christ is all in all!
A home that is not wholly His—how sad and poor and dark it is!
Then here will I and mine today a solemn promise make and say:
Though all the world forsake His Word, I and my house will serve the Lord! (LSb 862)
Pr. Paul F. Becker

Joshua 4:24 “…that all the people of the earth may know the hand of the LORD, that it is mighty, that you may fear the LORD your God forever.”

Studying the Art of Marriage

Posted by: on Sep 22, 2012 in Pastor's Desk | No Comments

Contemporary Culture and Marriage

Did you enjoy the recent series on lies that our society and culture believe? We covered five basic categories: 1. everything is random. 2. no absolute truth. 3. people are basically good . 4. I can do whatever I want. 5.The goal of life is self-satisfaction. We tried to absorb the sobering truth that the wrath of God is being revealed over us because we have ex-changed the truth of God for the lie; that as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he; and that every wrong or destructive behavior begins with believing a lie. This also happens to be the premise of an article by Pastor Bill Eliff, “8 Lies That Destroy Marriage.”

This article and others like it can be found on a website: That just happens to be the title of a dvd-based marriage event created to help couples fully experience God’s plan for marriage. Usually scheduled over a Friday night and Saturday, through the use of engaging stories, real-life testimonies, and humorous vignettes, this is a natural tool to inspire couples to have the God-honoring marriage that He designed.

Imagine what might happen if every LCMS (Lutheran Church Missouri Synod)  church in the greater Tri-Cities offered the Art of Marriage at least once a year. Imagine what might happen if every couple then completed an eight week “Marriage Oneness” experience that equips couples to grow in true intimacy, connection, and purpose – and experience closeness for a lifetime. Imagine what might happen if even 10% of those couples committed to become mentors to other couples that need someone to confide in. Well, are you ready to see what God can do through a restoration of biblical, God-honoring marriage in our community? Please be in prayer for a kick-off “Art-of-Marriage” event for our CALM churches. This would familiarize two or three couples from each congregation with the experience and prepare them to host it in their home church. The goal of Family Life Ministries is for the Art of Marriage to be hosted at least once a month in 2013 somewhere in the Tri-Cities. Marriages need all the Christian encouragement and support we can muster! Think of the families and children that can be impacted with love and truth. Wouldn’t that be worth our while?

I bet you thought I forgot about the 8 Lies that Destroy Marriage, didn’t you? Well, here they are.

  • Lie #1. “My happiness is the most important thing about my marriage.”
  • Lie #2. “If I don’t love my spouse any longer, I should get a divorce.”
  • Lie #3. “My private immorality does not affect my marriage.”
  • Lie #4. “My sin (or my spouse’s sin) is so bad that I need to get a divorce.”
  • Lie #5. “I married the wrong person.”
  • Lie #6. “My spouse and I are incompatible.”
  • Lie #7. “Breaking the marriage covenant won’t hurt me or my children.”
  • Lie #8. “There’s no hope for my marriage—it can’t be fixed.”

We must combat the lies about marriage. The truth will set us free (John 8:32). God can fix anything!

–Pr. Paul Becker
“This man welcomes sinners and eats with them!” Luke 15:2


Welcome to Concordia Lutheran Church

Posted by: on Jan 23, 2012 in Pastor's Desk | No Comments

It is good, Lord, to be here.

This portion of our new website will host thoughts from the Pastor’s desk. We’re just getting started, so keep an eye on the progress!